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Jannette & Paul

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                <h2 class="elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large">OUR STORY</h2>             </div>
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                <div class="bb-theme-elementor-wrap bb-elementor-custom-family bb-elementor-custom-size bb-elementor-custom-line-height">               <p>Paul and I met on a snowboarding trip in <strong>Japan.</strong> It was not planned by our friends to be our<strong> matchmaker</strong>, but we had mutual friends from each other’s party with no intention of anyone having <strong>sparks flying.</strong> When we first met at Paul’s cabin he was staying at with his group, we <strong>hit it off </strong>and we are so glad we are still friends with those who were on the trip with us in 2015. It was a huge meet up of 3 different groups so for us to <strong>naturally gravitate</strong> to each other and hit it off was rare and quite <strong>serendipitous</strong>. We kept in touch and didn’t start dating until a year later. It was strange to start dating someone from California and I was living in Texas. We started off <strong>long distance</strong>, and then eventually I moved out to California to be with him. We only lasted a year in California, and then a job offer brought us to<strong> Denver</strong>. We have been here since and love it since we love the outdoors and our<strong> son</strong>, Ethan does too. We married in 2019 and had Ethan in 2020. It worked out that Paul and I both knew we wanted kids. That’s was just both of our expectations and I’m glad we were on the same page.</p>             </div>              </div>
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                <h2 class="elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large">Our Interests</h2>             </div>
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                <div class="bb-theme-elementor-wrap bb-elementor-custom-color bb-elementor-custom-family bb-elementor-custom-size">             <p>Paul and I share the<strong> same hobbies </strong>and interests in hiking, snowboarding, and mountain biking. We enjoy<strong> watching sports together</strong> &#8211; basketball, football, and baseball. We don’t expect our kids to be competitive in our hobbies, but also find an interest in them. Jannette also has interests in <strong>rock climbing</strong> and scuba diving.</p>              </div>              </div>
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                <h2 class="elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large">What led us to Surrogacy</h2>              </div>
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                <div class="bb-theme-elementor-wrap bb-elementor-custom-family bb-elementor-custom-size bb-elementor-custom-line-height">               <p>I have a lot of issues with my<strong> reproductive</strong> organs. It started out with <strong>Endometriosis</strong> in my 20s. On top of that, I started to have re-occurring fibroids. The fibroids make getting pregnant <strong>very difficult</strong>. Fast forward to 2020, I had a complicated pregnancy, with my son, where my<strong> water broke at 26 weeks </strong>pregnant and I had to live in the hospital during covid, for 2 months. It’s honestly a <strong>miracle</strong> that I stayed pregnant that long while living in the depressing hospital and I couldn’t have visitors because it was during <strong>covid.</strong> After having my son, I got my <strong>fibroids removed</strong>, but then had <strong>other complications</strong> come up when we tried to get pregnant 1.5 years later, in middle of 2022. During my doctor visit, when I tried to figure out my issues in trying to get pregnant, I found out I had<strong> adenomyosis spreading in my uterus.</strong> At the same time fibroids keep reoccurring in my uterus that I had a few<strong> myomectomies</strong> (laproscopic and hysteroscopic) during the time we were <strong>trying to get pregnant.</strong> On top of that, I have a blocked fallopian tube that is causing hydrasalpinx, which is very bad for the <strong>embryo</strong>. It’s so many issues, but the adenomyosis is what was the main reason that <strong>I cannot carry</strong> my own child. It would cause more issues for the embryo to implant and grow in a healthy way. I was so <strong>devastated </strong>by the news, but feel <strong>so much hope</strong> that there is another a way to have a baby and that’s through <strong>surrogacy</strong>. We took the news very hard, but moved <strong>forward </strong>with IVF and getting our egg retrieval done.</p>              </div>              </div>
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                <h2 class="elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large">Our Hopes &amp; Dreams for Our Future Child</h2>               </div>
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                <div class="bb-theme-elementor-wrap bb-elementor-custom-family bb-elementor-custom-size bb-elementor-custom-line-height">               <p>I want my child to know they are <strong>loved </strong>and to know mom and dad love them so much. We want to give them the <strong>opportunities</strong> we didn’t have, since we did not grow up with a lot of opportunities. Our parents were <strong>immigrants</strong> so they worked hard to get us what they could. We <strong>hope</strong> our children can <strong>thrive</strong> in the community we try to grow for them and to be the <strong>change</strong> they want to see in the world.</p>             </div>              </div>
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                <h2 class="elementor-heading-title elementor-size-large">FAMILY TRADITIONS AND VALUES</h2>              </div>
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                <div class="bb-theme-elementor-wrap bb-elementor-custom-color bb-elementor-custom-family bb-elementor-custom-size">             <p>To be an <strong>empathetic </strong>and <strong>caring </strong>person to those around them. To know the values we <strong>instilled </strong>by our actions. That we never take for <strong>granted </strong>the <strong>blessings </strong>we have received and never felt entitled to. I can’t say that we have a special tradition. We are <strong>hospitable </strong>and <strong>generous </strong>with our <strong>community </strong>and hope our children will be that way too.</p>                </div>              </div>
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                <div class="bb-theme-elementor-wrap bb-elementor-custom-color bb-elementor-custom-family bb-elementor-custom-size">             <p>I would <strong>love </strong>as much contact as a GC would be open to. Essentially, I would want our GC to be <strong>extended family</strong> long- term so my future child knows the person who carried them. At minimum, I would like to attend milestone appointments and for my husband and I to be part of the delivery.</p>              </div>              </div>
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                <div class="bb-theme-elementor-wrap bb-elementor-custom-color bb-elementor-custom-family bb-elementor-custom-size">             <ul><li><h4><strong>Names: Jannette &amp; Paul </strong></h4></li><li><h4><strong>Location:</strong> Denver, CO</h4></li><li><h4><strong>Number of embryos: 4 PGS Tested</strong></h4></li><li><h4><strong>Agency/Management Team: The Biggest Ask</strong></h4></li><li><h4><strong>Fertility Clinic: CCRM Denver  </strong></h4></li><li><h4><strong>Surrogate Compensation: Medium/High</strong></h4></li><li><strong>Requirements: Must fulfill ASRM guidelines, must be willing to get the TDAP vaccine during pregnancy.</strong></li></ul>               </div>              </div>
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                <h3 class="elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default">The Biggest Ask Says

The American Society for Reproductive Medicine provides the following recommendations for evaluation of gestational carriers (i.e., many fertility clinics will require the following for their gestational carriers):

  • Carried at least 1 child without complications
  • Fewer than 3 deliveries via c-section
  • Be within the ages of 21 and 45
  • Body mass index in between 19 and 32
  • No smoking, abusing drugs, alcohol or prescription medications
  • Not receiving welfare, public housing or cash assistance from the government
  • Has a stable home life with emotional and child care support
  • No mental health conditions requiring the use of medications within the last 6 months (including depression)
  • No criminal record

Watch the following video to review the Medical and Psychological Clearance procedures that surrogates must complete.

No one likes to talk about surrogate compensation, but it is an important factor in any surrogacy agreement. The following is how we classify high, medium and low compensation (excluding the value of any benefits). Many factors affect surrogate compensation including surrogate experience (e.g., has the woman been a surrogate before?), whether the surrogate is signed up with an agency and surrogate preferences.

  • Low = surrogate compensation less than $30,000
  • Medium = surrogate compensation between $30,000 and $45,000
  • High = surrogate compensation greater than $45,000

You can learn more about how much surrogates get paid in our surrogacy guide’s module: “How much does surrogacy cost?”.

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